In the extremes of both, an Alpha may be too confrontational; a Beta may be too passive.
Fortunately, people are malleable, as you will see, and you can modify some of your behavior for a better balance.
An Alpha who is secretly embarrassed by her intense sexual fantasies may feign passivity in order for the man to take the lead, so she can be “taken.” Her shame, which is not obvious to her, is paradoxical, contradicting everything about this alluring, sexy, spunky woman.A new ad campaign for shaving cream suggests men “man up,” a playful poke both at traditional notions of manhood and at today’s “softer” guy.Today’s Beta guy is transformed and more complicated than the sensitive guy from the 80s and 90s. Many Alpha women have a sexual Achilles heel: openly sexual as they are, they still expect the man to take the lead in bed, which gets in the way of their falling for the tender lover, the Beta male.Betas have less of a need for control, and they may have less interest in a leadership position than an Alpha would.
In a group of women, the Alpha is the one who exerts power and influence through her ability to take charge of the conversation, while the Beta will tend to listen and support.Her towering four-inch stilettos march off to the office, the store, the judge’s chambers, and her lacquered-red soles send a “follow me” signal, straight to the bedroom.