If you are signing up for a paid dating service beware of the rolling subscription, says Lester.Many sites have an auto renewal function so make sure you untick it if you don't want to continue to be charged.Lester says her friend branded POF the 'TK Maxx of dating' because while you can find great stuff, it takes a bit of rummaging.Whatever site you choose, the important thing is not to stagnate, according to Lester.You could go niche with sites tailored to single parents, country bumpkins, over-50s, Christians, or men and women in uniform.
Her advice is to try before you buy."Think of it like you are looking to date the site as well as the people on it", she says. Avail of free trials, sign up for three months at a time and "dip your toe" until you find one that fits. The last time I dated online I signed up for Guardian Soulmates, because I live in London and it's a newspaper I read, and I don't want to date someone who voted for Tony Blair. For example, Lovestruck is aimed at single professionals while Tinder tends to attract fun-seeking 18-24 years olds.
"Don't indulge the inner narcissist", meaning "don't demand that your future partner love, worship, and adore you.